• Margaret Stefanowicz

The Benefits of Chores for Children - Part One

The best way to raise responsible adults is to give them age appropriate chores when they are children. The little girl represented on my website video, the one shown folding her clothes and bedsheets, was trained by me when she was between two and two and a half years old. We started with sorting out her socks, underwear, tops, washcloths, etc. I demonstrated how she should fold and place them in her dresser draw. It was sort of a fun game we played.

Let’s take a quick look at the benefits of doing chores;

  1. It helps children to learn and practice skills for running a home and enables them to become independent.

  2. Chores teach children to become competent contributors to the family. By contributing to the family, it helps boost the child’s self-worth. Children with no chores assigned are merely consumers. They just take, not give back to the family. Children who get something for nothing tend to lose respect for the things they acquire and thereby develop a false perception of how life works.

  3. Chores teach children to develop basic work attitudes and habits, such as responsibility, reliability, initiation, thoroughness, and persistence. These skills will eventually translate into a better understanding of what it takes to master schoolwork now and in the future, meaningful employment. These practices will ultimately allow them to become successful as an adult.

  4. Chores completed responsibly contribute to self-esteem. Contributors tend to be happy people, while non-contributors lean towards feeling useless.

  5. Performing chores enables children to develop a contributor mentality. They generally become self-starters with self-initiative. In other words, they can evolve into becoming a “doer”. The parent’s role is to properly manage the chore being done. In this manner, the children will learn to automatically begin the chore on their own without the parents instructing them.

In the real world, this learning skill will become essential to the child becoming a valued employee. They will be someone who sees and does what needs to be done and one who does not wait for the boss to assign a task. Children who contribute to the family learn to think more about “us” (as a family unit) and not “me” (as an individual). They more often adhere to their family values.

In Part Two of this blog I will be addressing how to assign chores, especially those that are age appropriate.

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